When I was in second grade, my parents enrolled me into club soccer. I went on to play AA as right-forward for over a decade after and loved every moment of that game. I learned so much, with just a field, 1 ball and 10 other girls. I was in love with making goals, and my Dad made damn sure I’d kick a few-in every game. And although I didn’t score every game, when I did, I never felt better. In life, on the right team, I’ve learned, you can also score really BIG. You can achieve great things when you are on a team of winners.
We must support one another more, much like in the game of soccer. Learn to “Lean-In”, if you will. This morning, I woke to about six different “thank you” emails from my crew of 12 amazing and talented women. Even my VERY-talented, award-winning photographer, Evi Abeler sent a note that made me cry. Something different is happening. I’ve finally met a team of women who 1,000% support one another and allow each other to shine. When we work together to achieve greatness, when we work with not an ounce of jealousy, envy or greed, we can achieve beautiful things.
I’ve often struggled with feeling different, sometimes feeling other’s jealousy or envy, and for what? Did you know that I’m just like everyone else? I often feel more lonely and un-fulfilled than most can measure. I believe we are all on the same playing field, and not one person is any better than another.
If you know who you are and you are confident in your best work. There is no need to be jealous, but to rather, embrace one another! What happened to leaning-in to help make each other better? Why all of the criticism and judgment all of the time? Where will that get you? My big sister, who is also an independent business woman, reminds me often: “Candice, don’t worry about anyone else, just do a great job at what you know you are meant to do.. the rest will fall into place.”
I leave you with my favorite tome, from the beloved Marianne Williamson, when we shine, we immediately allow others to shine as well. Ladies, now go out there and create, believe, achieve. Do something beautiful for some other radiant women. Shine. Oh, and thanks Evi, Laurie, Carla, Liz, Jade, Brooke, Skye, Sam, Deanna, Melissa, Christina, Anika, Helen, Gloria, Seevon, George, Rich and Sharon! You made me feel confident in who I am. And where we are going… More goodness to come. #CleanGreen goodness.
Our Greatest Fear —Marianne Williamson
it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.